Bought hunting magazines, watched hunting shows on TV. He looked forward to deer season all year long. With a little luck I'll have a more definitive care plan and have him home by Wednesday or Thursday. Tomorrow he meets with a different psychiatrist and then is being transferred to a more advanced neurology center 3 hours away. My husband is staying for a few more days. When something disrupts that routine, like a new baby, they often can't cope. She explained that patients with the trauma my husband has exist on routine. It's a worry because my husband is the bread winner and I can't replace his income on my skills and education. She told me to prepare to take on more and more of the responsibilities around the house. I met with a counselor that the neurology department employs to help patient's families deal with the fallout. He rarely goes on field calls alone anymore, he usually takes someone with him. They're like his crutches so he can do his job. He also has notebooks filled with notes and procedures he should know by heart. It got to the point he couldn't do it anymore. He used to go and get trained on all the new JD technology and then train the other techs. My husband hasn't been a trainer in 2 years. They were more honest with me today than I think they have been in a long time. My husband's boss and some coworkers came this morning. When I brought up how my husband hasn't bonded with our son she waved me off and told me she had rounds. She asked him misleading questions like she was trying to trick him into being suicidal. He knows these things happened, but the specifics of those events are lost to him.Ī psychiatrist met with him, but she wasn't very helpful. He doesn't remember our first kiss, when he proposed to me, or very much about our wedding. All those pictures around the house hold no real meaning for him.
I didn't know that it was because he, basically, doesn't have a past anymore. He rarely tells stories about his past anymore.
I had noticed in recent years he talked about the past less and less. He struggled with answering the most basic questions. He had lived there the first 22 years of his life. I watched him struggle name his hometown. Maybe I didn't want to notice? Maybe it was a conscious decision? It's embarrassing I didn't notice how far he had declined. I'm in shock as to how bad my husband's mental state is. They did all kinds of tests involving memory, they used flashcards, and mental quizzes and puzzles. We've been there all night while my husband was getting scanned and tested. They decided to take him to the hospital. The paramedics evaluated him and told me something wasn't right. With my husbands history of head trauma, he was a boxer from 12 to 28, I was concerned. Last night I called the firestation and talked to a firefighter about my husbands strange behavior since our son was born. UPDATE: My husband is not bonding with our 5 week old son. The neighbors can call me a Nervous Nellie all they want, I'm at wits end. My husband has had dozens of concussions over the years. I'm probably overreacting, but I've seen that documentary about the football players. He's going to get an MRI, whether he wants to or not. The person I talked to at the firestation was very concerned and they are sending an ambulance. Maybe it's his concussions, maybe it's something else. If I was to call the non emergency line to the local firestation and explain that my husband, who has a history of head trauma, is not acting himself, what would happen? Could they take him to get tested? I'll make the call, I just don't want to escalate this and then be wrong or have him mad. So it's probably mental and not physical, right? I asked some questions and my husband has been fine at work. My husbands coworker (My husband is a field tech for JD) came by yesterday to see the baby. Like those football players.Īt first I thought maybe he needs an MRI. My husband used to box semi-professionally until he was 28. This is probably totally unrelated, and me just being goofy. Up until our son was born we had a great marriage. I've seen him for maybe 10 minutes since Tuesday. On Tuesday my husband moved into the camper to get "quiet time" as he calls it. He won't call him by his name, he always refers to him as "the baby" and he won't do anything to help take care of him. My husband is not bonding with our 5 week old son and I'm not sure what to do. Mood spoilers: not a very happy ending (not death) Original post by u/bloodhoundpuppy in r/TwoXChromosomes **
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